Divorce Counseling
Are You Looking For Compassionate Support As You Navigate Or Consider A Divorce?
Is the decision to get divorced causing fear, doubt, or uncertainty? Do you worry about the impact the transition will have on your children, financial stability, or the connections you’ve developed with your partner’s family and mutual friends?
Perhaps you’re currently going through the process and struggling with intense, sometimes conflicting feelings of anger, guilt, grief, fear, and loss. Or maybe you are in the post-divorce phase and looking for someone who can support you as you rebuild and adjust to your new reality.
Divorce Is Hard At Any Stage—And It Can Wear At You On Many Levels
If you’re in the decision-making process, you may be wondering, “Am I making the right choice? Is everything going to be okay?” If you are in the middle of a divorce, you may be emotionally overwhelmed or frustrated by the often unfair and impersonal nature of the legal system.
Even if you’ve finalized your divorce, there’s still the task of adjusting to the change and rebuilding your life. And if children are involved, there is the added stress of helping them adjust—as well as the stress of having to co-parent and co-exist with someone who is, otherwise, no longer a part of your life.
No matter where you are in the divorce process, you deserve to feel safe, confident in your decisions, and capable of moving forward on your own. My job is to help you move through this journey with greater ease, awareness, and support so that you can heal, rebuild, and establish a new sense of normalcy in your life.
Happily Ever After Doesn’t Mirror Everyone’s Story
Our culture likes to over-romanticize ideas of love, marriage, and family, but the truth is that living with another person while pursuing goals, navigating transitions, and evolving as an individual is not easy. Throw kids into the mix and that’s another story entirely.
So there is the fantasy of love and marriage, and then, there is the reality. Real marriages end for all sorts of reasons, and that’s okay. It's hard, but it's okay, and together we can help you find happiness on the other side.
Divorce Counseling Can Help You Chart A Clear Path Forward
Going through a divorce is hard and having a place to process your thoughts and feelings makes it easier to take care of yourself and rebuild the life you want.
Doing that on your own is challenging because you are caught up in the middle of the chaos, making it hard to maintain perspective and clarity. Turning to loved ones for support and advice can be comforting and helpful, but they also lack the complete neutrality of a divorce counselor.
Going to therapy for divorce gives you an impartial ally who can empower you to move forward in ways that align with your well-being.
How Divorce Counseling Can Help
First and foremost, I want you to know that you are not alone, and despite your pain, you can make it to the other side of this. Separation and divorce can be difficult at any stage, and my approach to counseling takes this into account.
In the decision-making phase, we can concentrate on clarifying your needs, exploring your thoughts on the relationship’s viability, and addressing any overwhelming emotions.
If you’re currently navigating a divorce, therapy provides emotional support and an informed resource for problem-solving and managing the legal process.
During the post-divorce phase, counseling can focus more on adjusting to lifestyle changes that come with ending a marriage, healing old wounds, and creating healthier relationships going forward.
Wherever you are in the process, I’ll give you a space to share your story and the impact of that experience while guiding you to a place where you feel better—and life is a little easier.
Some Of The Tools And Strategies I Use In The Healing Process
I believe it can be helpful to go beyond managing feelings and navigating obstacles—to get to the core of some of the nagging thoughts, worries, and beliefs that might be making the divorce process more challenging for you.
In our work together, I’ll draw upon a variety of perspectives that focus on how this not-so-uncommon experience of divorce is uniquely experienced by you. Psychodynamic approaches help us understand how relationships in your childhood family and early life impact your relationship dynamics and self-perception in the present. The Internal Family Systems model focuses on healing any parts of yourself that may have been wounded in the past—and are still trying to protect you in ways that actually cause you harm in the present.
In addition to using talk therapy, I am trained in EMDR, a highly effective treatment for trauma. I am also trained as a yoga and meditation instructor, which allows me to provide guidance with mindfulness, breathing, and grounding techniques as needed or desired. My training as a divorce mediator gives me a greater understanding of the legal technicalities of the divorce process and can be helpful in setting realistic expectations and clarity around that aspect of your journey.
Going Through A Divorce Is Exhausting At Any Stage
But you can feel less alone and find greater certainty in what you want, what you need, and how to go about getting it. Together we can help you re-imagine your future and draw upon your wisdom, strength, and creativity to chart a path toward healing and growth. From co-parenting and answering children’s questions to rebuilding your life and feeling whole again, divorce counseling can help you reclaim your life.
Perhaps You’re Considering Divorce Counseling But Still Have Some Concerns…
I feel like I’m weak or unstable for going to therapy for divorce.
I understand that ending a marriage is hard, but you’re not weak or unstable for wanting help; you’re self-aware and likely in great pain.
Together, we will work on self-advocacy, boundary-setting, communication, and managing the intense emotions that come with navigating the legal, personal, and financial aspects of divorce.
Getting help with this is not a sign of weakness, it is a sign of wisdom.
Others can handle their separation or divorce without counseling—why do I need help?
Everyone’s situation is different. Some people split on decent terms, while others bear a lot of anger, grief, guilt. Plus, a lot of divorces are complicated by long-standing issues or circumstances, such as providing for a special-needs child or having to co-parent with a toxic ex.
Working with a divorce therapist helps you navigate those complex situations and emotional roadblocks so life gets easier and you start feeling better sooner.
Why is it taking me so long to move on after my divorce?
Divorce recovery is gradual. If you are taking the opportunity to truly work on yourself, heal properly, and create the life you want, it will take time.
As a divorce counselor, I can help you accelerate that process by working with you to get from where you are to where you want to be. It will still take time and work, but in the end, you will feel at peace—ready to fully live and love again.